The top three most stressful events in life are:
- Death
- Divorce
- Job Loss
Right Management, an outplacement company and division of Manpower tells those experiencing #3 to do three things right away:
- Exercise
- Get a schedule
- Journal
When I share this with people trying to process a career shift or a plan #3 often stands out and evokes the question “Why?”. The reason -pain needs to be processed to add to the tools/weapons that build resilience for future events. Are you dealing with some event below the top 3 above. Here are other ways to process pain/challenge:
- Executive coaching – A safe place to process, reset, and plan to move past it.
- Peer network – Few things are more comforting than knowing you are not alone in your challenges. ALL managers and above NEED to develop this for themselves. Don’t wait for your employer or HR team to do it for you.
- Read how others have done it – Like #2, finding a person with a good perspective can be comforting and will help you process things.
- Spouse/Best Friend – Having a ‘here is where I am’ discussion with someone who cares for and understands you is priceless.
Being alone with a challenge is not a good place to stay. Go find a friend.
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